What does dating mean in japan
In Western dating one would only tell someone “I love you” after being boyfriend and girlfriend for a good amount of time.
One says those words only with someone they feel they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
This isn’t a hard and fast rule, but more of a rule of thumb.
Being in a group diffuses the pressure and allows each party to take stock of the company the other keeps.
I’ve included my thoughts as a Westerner on Japanese dating culture for that reason.
Virgin or veteran, I feel for any Westerner or Easterner who dates or aspires to date inter-culturally this is worth a read. You might just understand the other half a little better after this.
From my understanding the Japanese do not see it that way.
Bringing a friend of the opposite sex can often be misinterpreted.
The Easterner will think the Westerner only wants to sleep with him/her and doesn’t want an actual relationship.
Since we in the West use kissing as an expression of romantic intent and as a stepping stone to building a relationship, it can be especially confusing and frustrating.
Westerners try not to say those words until they are sure of that feeling. But even telling someone “I like you” can be tricky.
Saying those words makes the thing real and in the open.