Rate desi dating language
I am…not some random aunt whose daughter is probably out there doing crazier things than I am.
If we are constantly worried about what other people are thinking, how is that living?
Yet none of these are "dating." There's no courtship, there's zero determining if you're compatible romantically or long-term. So let's call dating what it really is: a way to get to know a complete stranger to see if they're a possible romantic partner for the long haul.
You're just bumping the naughty bits, and that's why we North Americans have so many, varied terms for what is essentially a no strings attached sexual relationship. It isn't an excuse to "test the merchandise," or "see how I feel in six months.".
"On sort ensemble" is something you'd say in Quebec (loosely translated: "we go out together"), but no one said anything of the sort in France. Yes, the guy really planned to have me serenaded, on our first date, along the Seine River.
"I give advice to people who go out together," kind of worked, but most people didn't understand how or why I had a job. I lost my credit card and was two hours late, so instead we met for wine and cheese. That relationship ended because the gent couldn't communicate clearly with me, and kissed another woman at a party repeatedly knowing that I'd never take him back if he did. I'm still grateful for the experience, because it showed me just what dating was, and wasn't.
Anyone who grew up in a desi household knows that a lot of who we are is hidden from our families due to the fear of being judged and ridiculed for being too “fast” or being to “modern” and westernized.
If this is the case, how do our parents know what exactly is best for us?
Not that I have an issue with people who want to have casual sex, and are consciously choosing it as a way to release sexual energy and truly connect.When you think about it, the concept of a typical arranged marriage is terrifying -- parents choose someone and expect their child to coexist with someone that they barely know.Of course, there are people who are okay with this -- that is their choice based on what they believe, so more power to them, but for those who believe in finding their own way, why force them into something they are not comfortable with?I completely understand the fact that our elders want what is best for us in terms of happiness and success, but isn’t it only fair to take our thoughts into consideration?If there is a genuine concern about a person’s significant other based on personality or quality of life, I think it is important to have that conversation rather than just being appalled at the idea that your children gained enough independence to experience the dating world.