My ex wife is dating
I thought since I was the one that asked for this I would be able to walk away without feeling any hurt.
I found out shortly after I left the house that my wife is dating another man. It was not until her repeated rejection to my advancements that I realized that I am no longer the one she wants.
Lay these aside and remind yourself that you are starting fresh.
After years of infidelity on my part; I asked for a separation.
So, my advice is, if you care for her at all, let her do that. If you were seeing other women in your marriage, she was probably hurt and sad and lonely. I will tell you that how you are feeling is very common.
There are countless men and women who choose to leave, find out their spouse is seeing someone else, and then go a little crazy with jealousy and bad feelings.
However, how quickly you get into a relationship isn't a measure of how desirable you are. It's not necessarily the most attractive or likable people who get into relationships the most easily.
Your ex just happened to stumble upon someone else before you did. When my ex first got a new girlfriend, I feared that it endangered the friendship we formed post-breakup.
The person they're dating now is not necessarily smarter, more attractive, or kinder than you. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning."Maybe she's just a friend," I thought — until I saw comments from her friends like "he's a cutie! With the first ex, I still relied on him for emotional support the way I did when we were dating, and seeing him with someone else made me wonder if we could still have as close a relationship.Plus, when I broke up with him, he said he refused to move on and planned to marry me — a promise he obviously couldn't keep, but it planted in the back of my mind the assumption that if I ever had a change of heart, he would be there.A lot of my friends have confessed they've felt the same way, especially when they're forced to find out through social media.Discomfort with an ex publicly pairing up again is also acknowledged in pop culture; after Marnie breaks up with Charlie on , she obsesses over the other woman she sees in his Facebook photos."Most people don't want to feel expendable, rejected, or out of control," sex and relationships therapist Cathy Beaton tells Bustle.