Methodist views interracial dating
Unlike other dating experts, hers is a success story. Here’s what she had to say: Candice: Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and how you’ve become an advocate for interracial couples?
Why is it “problematic” to open yourself up to other men who might love you?
I often hear the old, tired line that black folks need to work on themselves before they can mingle romantically with other races. You can still advocate for change and love your blackness if you have a non-black spouse.
Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t make you Black.
I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.
It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?