Lesbian online dating rules
Everything I learned about girl-on-girl dating was through trial and error.Lucky for you, I've made every rookie mistake in the book, and I'm here today to share my wealth of screw-ups. Unfortunately for us, when we decide we prefer riding the queer train and hop off at station "Girl-On-Girl," there is no tour guide to greet us and lead the way (which is particularly sad, seeing as lesbians make for excellent tour guides). It wasn't so long ago that I was a wide-eyed young gay hungry for the answers to a slew of my pressing questions about lesbian dating. We are taught the rules of the boy-girl dating game at an early age.Unless you want to be thrown into a haphazard mix of other lesbian newbies at a bi-monthly girl party at a massive nightclub, you have to to find out where the experienced lesbians gather. We don't like things that are too easily available, and the dating scene is no different.Our culture is like a secret designer sample sale advertised only to an exclusive group of people "in the know." (Oh, but once you get inside, you discover it was worth waiting on that pesky long lesbian line).We aren't like gay men who shamelessly advertise incessant fabulous gay parties all over the Internet.
Women aren't a simple stroll in the park; women are an uphill climb in dangerous weather conditions. Also, lesbian culture, by nature, is extremely elusive.Like I said, lesbians are elusive and hard to seek out, especially if you live in a small town. Lesbians are usually nice and friendly to fresh meat and are more than happy to welcome you into the fold (a little sometimes). Let's brainstorm: Is there a lesbian at work who you've never spoken to before? Is your cool older brother friends with a cool older lesbian? Tell her you're part of the tribe and, most likely, she will invite you to her next night out with the ladies. Send her my way, and I will set that mean lesbian straight. If you don't have a lesbian bar in your town, get online and research a lesbian night somewhere in the surrounding area. Who doesn't love a mystery woman who is sitting solo at the girl bar? Sprinkle in an "Oh, my ex-girlfriend did this..." or a "So and so is a hot girl.Maybe your plumber is a lesbian (for real, though). Karma will surely bite her in the ass, and she will die, sexless and surrounded by aging cats. And if you can't find a lesbian mentor, don't worry. I want to date her..." into conversation every now and then. Before you know it, word will be out on the street, and straight friends will set you up with their gay friends.One key rule when it comes to dating is to create more opportunities to meet more potential people.And that means breaking out of your comfort zone and making yourself open and available to meet new guys and gals and have new experiences.