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The book compelled me to look into God’s word for strength, not just to rely solely on what Josh said, though.” Another writer found great wisdom in the book: “‘ helped me to see, for the first time, that God should be included in every romantic relationship, especially the one you’re considering as a spouse.
Unfortunately, in many cases and churches it went haywire.” and its related resources, as well as two similar followup books, have all been discontinued from publication. About the Author: Clare is a digital journalist for the Broadcast Industry.
“I think it’s made us realize how there’s heartache and there’s pain no matter what pathway you choose in life,” Harris said.
“There’s no path you can choose that can protect you from that.” He now believes that a formulaic, controlled approach to life and faith is harmful, and in a 2018 interview with NPR he said his mistake was to take Biblical views of sex too far.
He still holds to its call to “sincerely love others” but says his thinking has changed a lot.
“I no longer agree with its central idea that dating should be avoided,” he writes.
“I now think dating can be a healthy part of a person developing relationally and learning the qualities that matter most in a partner.” While he still believes sex was meant for marriage, he regrets that his book was so restrictive, and that an over-emphasis on virginity made many people feel like a failure if they didn’t have a pure record.
“A lot of [my classmates] shared stories of the effect my book had, and a lot of them were negative,” he said. He began inviting people to share their stories on his website, and then made a documentary – called exploring the harm caused by the book.
“I couldn’t just write them off as angry trolls, because these were my friends, and so I listened.” On Twitter, one woman told the author that his book was used against her “like a weapon”. In the film, Harris explains he’d been trying to create a “formula” to protect people from pain, but the fallout has shown him that idea is a fantasy.