Dating a friend of your ex boyfriend
If you do decide to pursue a friends’ ex, be prepared for the potential for some major fall-out.
“You should avoid this whole scenario unless you feel very strongly that your friend’s ex is your ultimate soul mate,” says Atwood.
The reality is that it’s just too weird and uncomfortable for most people to want to deal with.” Therapist Karen Sherman agrees.
“The only time it might be okay is if your friend has moved on to another relationship,” she says.
Under that logic, I've never gotten over anyone in my life. After I last spoke to another fling I never even officially dated, I made sure to unfollow him on Facebook so I didn't have a similar experience.
Months and sometimes years after a relationship, my heart rate still accelerates when I see an ex is dating someone new on Facebook. But that didn't stop his new profile picture, with an unknown woman next to him.
Over a year after I ended one relationship, I found some photos on Facebook of my ex with a woman I didn't recognize. (Sure, she exclusive and hadn't spoken in six months! After doing some soul searching, I realized my reasons were different for each person.
Your best friend may not mind if you date her ex-boyfriend.
The Girl Code states that you should NEVER date your best friend’s ex. What if you and he develop a relationship many years after he and your bestie broke up? But, what if your bestie tells you that she still has strong feelings for him despite having broken up years ago? Dating your best friend’s ex-boyfriend is a NO when: If his infidelity is the reason why their relationship came to an end, forget about the guy.
So, if you’re in this boat now and you’re wondering how to sail the seas smoothly, here’s how you know when dating your best friend’s ex-boyfriend is a no and when it’s a go.
“Even if the two of them have split, emotions take a while to heal, so it’s unlikely that the friend is going to be okay with it.” But not all relationship experts see it this way.
“It’s ok to move in if they are estranged and no longer in love and divorcing,” says matchmaker Marla Martenson. It could be right under your nose, and circumstances have to shift for things to evolve.” As Martenson points out, “It’s a delicate situation, but why let a potential love match get away?
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She will appreciate your honesty, having waited for the perfect time and respecting her situation.